Yes! You Can Have It All!


By Dr. J Thomas Smith, Contributing Writer – From the time I was a child to this very day, there have been numerous things that I’ve said I wanted to do and was told, “You can’t do everything,” or “You can’t do that.” Usually, it was said by someone who did not know me well. My mother and grandmother always encouraged me to explore.

The statement “You can’t do everything,” could very well be.

Unless You Are Jay Leno
Can you have all the cars you would like to drive? You may. But would you have time to drive them? Unless you are Jay Leno, you would just warehouse them.

Can you have all the money you would like to have? You may. But working so hard, would you have time to enjoy the fruits of your labor?

What I Refuse to Believe
During my first year in law school, I was shopping at one of my favorite gadget stores. That day I ran into one of my colleagues, a very well-known talk show host. As we were catching up, I told him I was in law school, and he said, “You don’t know what you want to do!” He was so wrong.

What I cannot see the reasoning in, and what I absolutely refuse to believe, is:

• That I cannot pursue at anytime any interest that I choose for as long as I choose
• That I cannot move into any profession/career if I so choose.

We always have a choice!

Life Is a Buffet

I will never accept the idea that I have to choose one thing. I don’t have to choose one job. I don’t have to be in one career for my entire life. I don’t have to have just one source of income. I can do many things. I believe this to be true for everyone. We all have the power to choose. Why can’t you choose to make gizmos for a few years, then go into radio sales for three or four years, then teach for several years? Perhaps you would like to teach while you are in sales and make gizmos on the side, if that would please you.

Who makes these rules? Who says we can’t have it all? Obviously, we cannot have all things or do all things at the same time. However, most of us do plan to live for some time. Choose now to be, to do, and to have all that you desire from the buffet of life. Be all that you can be and encourage others to do the same too. And as you pursue your goals and dreams, be great.

Dr. J Thomas Smith is host of “Sunday Morning Live” on KMJQ/Majic 102.1 (9-11 am CST) ( He is an attorney (, author (, keynote speaker, and mental health consultant (www.jthomassmithsap). Your feedback is welcomed at Follow on Twitter @drjtsmith102.


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